Last Days Wrap-Up

I’ve been busy lately applying the things I’ve learned in doing this Personal Power II adventure and I guess most of what I’ve written here has been for my benefit and not many others. That being said, I want to finish up and summarize the last few days just in case anyone is reading along or may run across this post somewhere and wonder about whether or not this course has a happy ending. (It does, by the way and I’m awarding myself and all those who have gone through this course, a gold trophy because it IS an accomplishment!)

In the last few days of training, Tony talks about the importance of relationships and how they can be improved. Different ways of communicating about love and emotions can make a lot of difference in how someone perceives the loving gestures coming from their significant other. For example, some people like to be spoken to in a certain way in order to feel the deepest sense of love, while others respond to gifts and things. Still others feel that being touched in a certain way conveys love on that deep level.  We all tend to respond to all types of loving behavior, but learning what you and your mate enjoys the most can help create a deeper bond between you. Read the rest of this entry

I completed the Tony Robbins 30 Day challenge a week or so ago, but haven’t finished the blogging part as yet. Still working on it, but I really wanted to report on what has happened since I’ve finished the 30 day challenge -  for the first time.

What I realize is that it is not a be-all change your life lickety-split program. It is, however, way more than that – in that it provides a solid training foundation for the rest of one’s life, if you want it to be.  Tony gives you a toolbox along with directions on how to use it. Skills like changing your emotions when you want to, anchoring empowered states, taking care of your body,  ways to increase your energy, learning how to say “goodbye” to procrastination and self-sabotage all add to the ability to get more out of your life.  Read the rest of this entry

Day 24

What is the biggest roadblock that keeps people from having the relationship they most want?

In the beginning of most relationships, great fun, excitement and play rule. Each partner is on their best behavior – pouring out affection and kindness. Expectations are high and for the moment, needs are being met easily and often.

However, after awhile, things change and it seems that more and more effort is required to keep the spark.  Each of the partners may feel that they want to “cash in” on all the affection they’ve poured out and take a break to simply sit back and receive the outpouring of love they were used to.

Gradually, when they feel that they are no longer being cared for in the same way, they each withdraw their affections somewhat, bemoaning the fact that the spark is gone. Along the way, they discover that the relationship is NOT the solution to their problems and many move on to the next person at this point.  Because they don’t understand the dynamics of relationships they only want the easy part, not the work part.

It is important to think of relationships as a platform for giving, rather than getting

There are several reasons why relationships fail: Read the rest of this entry

Day 23

So much material written on how to increase one’s energy. The need is so great. One of the things I’ve learned that if you don’t have your health and that translates into energy, it is very difficult to reach your full potential. Energy is the currency of life. If you don’t have it, think of what you’re missing!

The first key to a healthier and more energetic you is to understand and practice power breathing. Oxygen is key in affecting the quality of life by fully permeating the system. Your whole body; every cell of every system is energized by being bathed in oxygen.

Here is an exercise that will help you right now, feel more energized. This is so amazing. It is free, and works well.

Breathing: 4-16-8

The numbers above is simply a ratio and when you’re just starting out, breathing in for 4 counts, holding for 4  or 8 and exhaling for 8 counts is a fine place to start. Exhaling for twice as many counts as on inhalation helps you increase your lymph circulation. Your lymph system has no pump, yet its volume is quite a bit greater than your blood. Exercise and breathing help it to circulate and remove toxins from your system.   If you can do the following, have at it:

1).   Inhale a deep breath counting to 4.

2).   Hold breath to the count of 16.

3).   Exhale to the count of 8. Read the rest of this entry

Day 22, Part II

After just learning about how to eliminate self-sabotage, Tony turns our attention to creating unstoppable self-confidence.  How can we turn it on when needed? Can it be a more constant state of mind?  Self-confidence brings one a sense of power and certainty in the moment.  It  seems to produce a certain “knowing” that one has the capacity to handle whatever is being thrown at them.

Before checking further about self-confidence, let’s look at at how it fits in with your life change. Tony presents a “Potential> Action>Results> Beliefs>back to Potential” cycle. Eliminating self-sabotage and building self-confidence will provide the breakthroughs so you CAN begin to put this cycle into effect while you build momentum.  Being able to control your emotions will enable you to operate more efficiently.

There are 3 primary ways to create any emotion.

1).  Physiology plays a huge role affecting our emotional state. How we move, our breathing patterns, our facial expressions, etc. actually cause chemical cascades in our brains that cause specific emotions based on what chemicals are released.

So, the quickest way to instill the feeling of self-confidence is to radically change your breathing, gestures, movement and facial expressions.

Here’s some fun you can try: Get up and walk around your room as though you have all the self confidence in the world! Strut, swagger, play with it. Keep it up for a few minutes. Really. Read the rest of this entry

Day 22

Holy Smokes! Day 22 already.  Today, will be in two parts. Part I will be about self-sabotage and part II, equally important, about creating self-confidence.

Why is it that so many people believe that they are victims of the dreaded “self-sabotage”? You hear so frequently about how people start to get in the groove and things are going well, when all of a sudden, they are late for an appointment, or they leave important papers at home or they can’t find their car keys.  It MUST be self-sabotage, isn’t it?

Tony mentions that instead of self-sabotage, the culprits could simply be that we’re not paying attention,  or that we have poor habits,  lack of focus, or unclear goals. We have to realize that our brain is always trying to benefit us in some way, whether conscious or unconscious. Read the rest of this entry

Day 19 -21 (includes the weekend review time)

Today, we’re drilling down to observe how to overcome fears of failure and success.  Both of these fears can paralyze one from taking any action at all, and of course, success in anything is tied up in taking massive action.

In order to eliminate fears, we must change our mental rules. First, what must happen for you to feel successful and to feel like a failure? Define specifically what that looks like for you. Then, you must create new definitions for what has to happen for you to feel successful and to feel like a failure.  Developing new rules by which you can happily achieve your goals, well, that really can make for a more satisfying life. Read the rest of this entry

Day 18

Today, we’re learning about financial self-sabotage and how many of us (me, included) are really good at it. If we are sabotaging ourselves financially, it’s because on some level, we believe that making money leads to more pain than pleasure.

Just like other habits and patterns we’ve learned to change in these last 18 days, this major hurdle can also be deleted. Here’s some great ways to condition ourselves to be prepared to have wealth. Read the rest of this entry

Day 17

“Money is nothing but a means to measure the exchange of value between people.”

~ Tony Robbins

Many of us have pain associated with wealth in an approach/avoidance dance. Because of events in our past, we can call these “wealth wounds”. There can be lots of sensitivity about financial issues and so if these wounds are not healed, it is impossible to gain a ton of financial resources. Read the rest of this entry

Day 16

Today we’ll be looking at the process called “anchoring”. This is the process that links events in our lives that become associated to intense emotional states with consistent repetition. For example, is there a certain song that brings back memories of a particular person with whom you were once in a relationship? This is because while you were in the peak of an emotional state, the sound of this music was playing. So, you remember the feelings of that long ago moment once again when you hear the music. Read the rest of this entry